Dearly beloved, we have been gathered here right now to make it through this thing calledâ?¦ a season finale! Yes, its genuine, today’s occurrence marks the end of the absolute smash hit that was S2 of
Hold Off, Is It A Night Out Together?
And to commemorate that closing, just who better to think about it and discuss the joys and successes of an extended distance crush, than star and queer person Elise Bauman? You might acknowledge Elise from life’s delightful queer xmas rom-com which come around last year,
Underneath The Christmas Tree
,
but around these parts, this lady has another concept that is almost as vaunted: Drew’s gf! Yes, you got that right, this shimmering twosome was birthed through the great queer practice: the long distance crush.
But what will it be concerning the cross country crush that will be therefore attractive to queers across the world? Is it the comparative scarcity of like minded queers around you? Perhaps the power to flirt long-distance requires a number of the pressure off? The 3 of us go into all of it, AND Drew and Elise show some probably also lovely information regarding their unique connection!
Not to mention you will find a game title! This week, I make Drew have fun with the online game that merely took more than Twitter and Tiktok for some fleeting months: «They’re a 10 butâ?¦» It is a very good time, around!
SHOW RECORDS
+ Practice Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!
+
Browse Drew’s meeting with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ Watch
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it nevertheless rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s upper thighs areâ?¦ without a doubt very compelling!
+ Will Shortz is in fact title associated with the NYT Crossword publisher!
*the more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: And then we got from the telephone, following both of us hopped on the cellphone two moments later we’re like, «therefore the border is actually closed, the audience is legitimately not allowed to actually get over the edge.»
Christina
: What i’m saying is, top among one of my personal favorite sound memos and or messages I got from Drew, i cannot remember which form it came in, it absolutely was similar, «we made this course of action and today the borders are shut.» Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it was a genuine minute.
[theme track plays]
Drew
: Hi, I Am Drew.
Christina
: And I Also’m Christina.
Drew
: And thank you for visiting
Hold Off, Is It A Night Out Together?
Christina
:
Wait, Is This A Date?
is actually an Autostraddle podcast delivered by myself obtaining giggles, together with question that’s on everyone’s mouth, hold off, had been this a night out together?
Drew
: We’re after the next season, and I also believe we solved it, i believe.
Christina
: Yeah, i do believe I’m only delivering big finale fuel, like whenever comedies had previously been in front of a studio audience, and everybody would walk in so there was actually an hour or so of applause since it had been like, this is the last, which is the way I’m feeling. Though becoming clear, no one provides applauded me yet, hateful. Thank you so much, thank you so much. Today i’m loved and used. Drew, that are you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about this component.
Christina
: Yeah, correct?
Drew:
Possibly period three I’ll have the intros. My name is Drew Gregory, i’m a writer for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans woman. Guess what happens, In my opinion whenever we carry out another period I would like to have an enjoyable one we throw-in towards the end.
Christina
: Ooh, one thing spicy, you wish to jazz it?
Drew
: Yeah, There isn’t any such thing now though.
Christina
: Okay, leave them desiring more, i do believe that is great.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: I am Christina Tucker, Im additionally an author at Autostraddle, additionally the net in particular. A podcaster, a ideal gay black girl, and someone who’s experience fairly flashy listed here on this mid-day.
Drew
: Great, i am really happy you are jazzy and I’m spicy, or perhaps i am planning for the possibility that someday I’ll be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you’re like, I am not sure, the initial half of the film Dune, the spruce comes. Cool guide, ladies, she’s solitary. Anyhow, i actually do have a casino game for people to try out on this hollowed day’s our very own finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: This Is Basically The classic, by traditional What I’m Saying Is a-game that took over the internet and TikTok for a couple weeks, «They’re a 10, butâ?¦»
Drew
: Ah, great.
Christina
: today Drew, i will lay out some surface rules for your needs, because i am aware you love a follow up concern.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: While I state they’re a 10, they’re a 10 for you by any means that matters to you, that might be literally, that may be mentally, this is just an individual you’re feeling is a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, okay, many thanks.
Christina
: i really do n’t have any situations for what more you contained in this individual were doing within dating life, you are simply gonna need to go along with your abdomen and determine.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: fine?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: we will place where make that obvious, right here we get. They are a 10, nonetheless they clap when the airplane countries.
Drew
: i decided people were also dramatic with this particular, where its like they’re a 10 which thing makes them visit a-two, seriously.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: and so i’m probably nonetheless give a pretty big eight.
Christina
: Yeah, i believe that is reasonable. I think eight is the proper number of cringe treatment for that little action. Okay, this is exactly a good start. Okay, they’re a nine even so they never text you first.
Drew
: and that I are unable to ask followup concerns?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: thus I can’t ask, really do they content myself when I text? I might say a five.
Christina
: Yeah, not texting basic actually ever, that is crude.
Drew
: Ever is odd.
Christina
: that is crude material. Fine, they’re a five even so they drive you to definitely every errand you have ever had to operate.
Drew
: which is really nice, but I could alwaysâ?¦ If there were five, I’ll provide him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But I know you love a solo jaunt anyhow, you adore an errand run.
Drew
:i am talking about today my personal girl Elise did drive us to an errand, and that I had been really thankful, in case which was the one and only thing she performed we’dn’t take a commitment, which was only an added little wonderful extra.
Christina
: I think which is fair.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: All right, these are typically a seven even so they merely pretend to read your work.
Drew
: notice aspect of that that bothers myself will be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, we understood it will be.
Drew
: it is not the maybe not checking out it. As long as they didn’t read could work it’s like, I’m not that, I would end up being only a little, it really is like never ever? But it’s great, i possibly could conquer it. Nonetheless they rest for me about that is what’s weird if you ask me, to ensure that’s going to decrease to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, appropriate, correct. These are generally a three nonetheless have access to the criterion wardrobe.
Drew
: And would I have you to go?
Christina
: and also you get accessibility, you reap the benefits of that accessibility, yes.
Drew
: i possibly could have a good affair with this six.
Christina
: i believe you might. It actually was a three, but yeah, you’re slamming it up to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that is what i am stating, I’m slamming it to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. Everyone loves that. They are an eight but all of their friends tend to be straight.
Drew
: Okay, there was clearly some discussion about that, because i do believe there was clearly a you want assist. I think I maybe was actually throughout the face-to-face side on most of this Autostraddle team who asserted that really good to simply have straight buddies. I would like to claim that its okay, it is simply not the life We lead. All directly pals, that is going to visit a two.
Christina
: Yeah, I’m going to must accept you on that one, I would personally just believe it is just a little unpleasant, complicated.
Drew
: All direct friends?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: if they are a new comer to queerness and generally are attempting to meet a lot more queer men and women, which is diverse from if they’re a well established season queer who’s like, you-know-what? I really like becoming one lesbian within my friend gang of directly individuals.
Christina
: Yeah, I would feel the in an identical way whether or not it was a dark individual that had been like, «There isn’t any Black pals,» i might end up like, «What’s going on there?» Internally.
Drew
: we aren’t in a network sitcom, we can’t have a token individual.
Christina
: you don’t have to become token, you should not do this to your self. All right, we’ve got three more. They’ve been a seven but they spend-all their unique free-time at the gym, consistently lifting weights up and down. I’m not sure what individuals carry out at the gym.
Drew
: their spare time. I guess this will depend on which matters as sparetime. I’ll say a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: we’ll bump them all the way down two.
Christina
: Bump them down.
Drew
: but that is good. I assume it depends mostly for me personally, which I’m perhaps not asking a follow concern, i am staying with five, but it is dependent in my opinion what truly matters as free-time.
Christina
: Sure.
Drew
: Can we enjoy flicks with each other, or venture out for eating, would be that time? Just isn’t operate time free time, or is it really like as soon as we don’t have other pursuits?
Christina
: I listen to you, I hear you.
Drew
: But I’ll stay with five.
Christina
: All right. They are six, but their mom is sexier than they might be.
Drew
: Oh, I am not sure to increase or down.
Christina
: i understand, right?
Drew
: I don’t think i really could actually ever date some body for theirâ?¦ It’s like easily’m maybe not interested in some body to start with, i am not likely likely to be dating all of them.
Christina
: Right.
Drew
: I am not going to be want, well, they were able to end up as their own hot mother. I believe I would say that they are still a six, i am merely planning to perhaps not call them and that I’m browsing call their unique mommy.
Christina
: Yeah, personally i think like it’s like you remain alike, but maybe I go out along with you slightly longer than i’d necessary-
Drew
: That’s good point.
Christina
: To get some mom time. I do not think you change.
Drew
: i did so one thing truly poor that I however believe defectively about, and that is that someone asked myself aside, this was actually once I was in school, and I also was not curious, I really ended up being clear about this, I was obvious I found myselfn’t interested. But she wanted to be buddies, and I also could inform that she stated she planned to end up being pals nevertheless was actually coming from destination-
Christina
: She was actually wishing.
Drew
: Yeah. However the thing is the fact that each one of the woman buddies happened to be really hot and cool, therefore I did always been her pal in order to spend time with her buddies. I didn’t rest about my personal intentions typically, it however was not the best thing I did so as a 20 yr old.
Christina
: after all unfortuitously it simply reminds me personally of this episode of
Sex as well as the City
where Carrie’s matchmaking, i really believe it’s Justin Theroux, in which he sucks, but his family members stones, and she actually is like, I’m able to do this for quite. I am like, yeah, absolutely, exactly who could not.
Drew
: Carrie was not attempting to connect with his family members, the difference, however know very well what? It’s great, we are all great.
Christina
: A hookup can look like anything, i am constantly proclaiming that.
Drew
: that is a really fantastic point.
Christina
: your own last one, is a three but has actually a beach home.
Drew
: I’m planning to say an annoying sentence, but I decided to go to NYU.
Christina
: Horrible to say.
Drew
: something sucks about me, which this might be planning appear to be a very humble brag, because it’s really probably a character attribute, nevertheless sucks as a person checking out the globe. We went to a school which is filled with rich those that have all sorts of amazing coastline homes, as well as these other items, and that I only turned into pals with folks who have been there on scholarships. Just, but primarily, we absolutely, i did not socialize with people who’d beach homes.
Christina
: You didn’t use.
Drew
: Yeah, and so I think if they are a three nevertheless they have a coastline house, they are probably a two. The very factâ?¦ I am not sure.
Christina
: Yeah, you merely can’t generate that leap to work well with the unwell beach house time.
Drew
: No, it sucks. But what i am truly hoping is that my friends who are relatively down-to-earth, good individuals, more ones are just planning continue to get that new money and get beach residences, then i will be able to spend time with my great pals and get at a beach residence. That is the fantasy in which i really could get the coastline residence.
Christina
: that is the dream at the conclusion of your day, it is new cash and a coastline residence, that’s all we are interested in. You heard it here 1st people.
Drew
: I like brand new money.
Christina
: Love brand-new cash.
Drew
: Love brand-new cash. Yeah, that has been a delight. I’d in fact, I’d truly been planning to play that video game since it had been something on TikTok, so many thanks to make my personal hopes and dreams be realized.
Christina
: I imagined it could be an enjoyable one to carry out, therefore ended up being extremely enjoyable to generate them.
Drew
: Well, should we move on to our very own main part from the few days, and is falling for folks who live-in different locations. That is unique of long distance connections, because long distance interactions will start really into a connection, they are able to keep on into a relationship, here is the need that queer individuals have to look at their unique location they stay and go, no, I’m not planning to flirt with one of these people, I’m going to go on instagram.com and discover a person that life very far-away. And in addition we have actually a, I’m sure we always say a really special visitor, however for myself this is certainly a really unique visitor. Want to introduce your self?
Elise
: I would love to introduce myself personally. In the morning we the special guest?
Drew
: you will be, yes.
Christina
: Baby, definitely.
Elise
: Great, wow, incredible. I am Elise Bauman, I’m an actor, i am a queer person, and that I’m here today because I’m asleep with one of several hosts.
Christina
: imagine which one?
Elise
: Yeah, other podcast is simply the market trying decipher which host i am sleeping with. I really like that, it’s like a murder secret but-
Christina
: there isn’t any strategy to understand.
Elise
: there isn’t any option to understand. Yeah, does this generate me personally a nepotism child? Usually the way the industry works.
Christina
: Yes, that is how the sector works, girl.
Elise
: Nice, wonderful.
Christina
: This is it.
Elise
: Wow, perhaps I could get a profession using this.
Christina
: fingertips entered for you personally.
Elise
: Nepo infant to position, wow, great. I’ve usually wished to end up being a nepo child.
Christina
: i am very grateful.
Drew
: Yeah, I became just probably claim that for those who don’t know, well now I’m damaging the murder secret from it all, but Elise and I can be found in an union, and performed begin dating during the pandemic, and Elise stays in Toronto, and I also are now living in la, which have been indeed various locations, and they are actually in various nations.
Elise
: These include certainly, they might be indeed.
Christina
: And Drew, not to say which you went against your own instinct, but i actually do feel as though you’re generally a person who says, precisely why bother with a lengthy distance time? You can find individuals below I am able to date, exactly why do this to yourself? You realize it will likely be difficult, you understand it will likely be challenging, why do this? But right here you are.
Drew
: See, that is interesting, because i’m like i usually appreciated to have a bit of both, i simply think I didn’t grab the cross country types possibly since honestly.
Christina
: Maybe that’s all, yeah.
Drew
: But I always loved a long distance flirt.
Christina
: Real.
Drew
: And so I think this merely held heading. Once we began-
Elise
: therefore the solution, Drew, was not that I became just irresistible therefore ended up being private in my opinion, and this was really specific for me that I was simply amazingly attractive so that you simply out of cash all guidelines and you mentioned, «i need to have this one.»
Drew
: I mean it really is type of the solution in a longer sense. In the same way which simply held taking place. Right after which all of our friends associated with pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, who we regularly live with, as some of you may know, I would often be like, I would end up being trying to date individuals through the pandemic in L. A. and the encompassing aspects of L. A.. After which they’d create fun of myself because I would personally occasionally you should be love, «What i’m saying is, i possibly could simply try to date Elise Bauman.» I found myself constantly, «What i’m saying is, {this person|this i
